It's not that I'm going to think less of someone if it slips out in excitement or frustration. What I mean more so is when someone uses it ALL THE TIME for everything.
Yesterday I was asking my sister if there were any phrases that got under her skin or offended her, and she said, "Yes. I have a student who always says, 'That's gay,' and it really irritates me."
So my question is...if you were around someone who said an offensive phrase constantly, how would you address it without sounding haughty or self-righteous? How do you handle it while, at the same time, not embarrassing them by making them feel horrible?
6 comments:
Good question. And if you get a good answer let me know, lol!
I am mostly around people that I know, and are family or super close so if I give them the look - well they know ;o)
And I tell the girls that that's not nice and tell them a better option to say....
But to someone that isn't close to me or that I am not 'raising' - I am at a lose.... really can't help you here. Sorry :o(
Mine is when people say "that's retarded" or "you are so retarded!" That grates my nerves more than any other.
And yes, when I heard someone say it, I do point out how offensive it is.
I hate hearing, "That's so gay" or "That's retarded". As a teacher it is easy to correct or to say... what do you really mean by that? Because how you said it is offensive to me and many others.
I think you could mention that it bothers you a lot to her OMG. (Maybe even just saying OMG is better?? )
But...the question is can you live with the aftershocks of this? I would be irritated with anyone who corrected me for a long time. Even if they did it nicely.
But, I would still probably say something, especially if I didn't care too much about maintaining a BFF status with this person. If it bothers you that much. (I would do this with perfume or something that got on MY nerves, too.)
PS - Dan says let it slide. He is one to avoid confrontation though!
I also feel really strongly about taking the Lord's name in vain. I worked in a preschool once where it was so common among the employees that three year old children were walking around the classroom saying "Oh Jesus!" and "Oh my God". :(
As for dealing with it, I don't know unfortunately. I also am not sure how to do so without sounding self-righteous. I would love to know a gentle way of dealing with things like this.
I look forward to hearing the answers your other readers share.
Oh My God... yes. It is even hard to type. AND anything about "retarded"... "I'm so retarded", "What a retard", etc... Breaks my heart.
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