And it immediately made me think of this picture...
Sarah and Leah are the same age difference as me and my sister (just shy of six years apart). I often wonder if they will be similar to us. Their age difference is the same, but the rest of the family is not the same, so I wonder how that will play a role - and by that I mean, Sarah is not the oldest child (like I was) and she has one child before her and two after her. I think it's very interesting to see how birth order and how many siblings a person has affects how they relate to siblings.
What makes siblings close or not so close? I find that very interesting! As an adult, I know which of my friends are close to their siblings and which ones are not. It doesn't seem to have anything to do with age, so I really can't figure it out. :)
To my sweet sister,
I know we are so very different, but we are also very alike! I love you and I know that even though we've had moments when we've wanted to kill each other, one thing is true: I trust you. I trust you with everything about me. And I've learned over the years that trust is huge. So I hope you remember this when I drive you crazy!
What do you think is the key to closeness among siblings?
5 comments:
The key to closeness for my brother and me is not living in the same house :) We like each other as long as we don't live together. I never had a sister and always wanted one. I'm so glad my girls will have each other :)
I always wanted a brother! :)
Well... first I would say age gap - but take that back because my sister brother and I were 3 and 6 years apart and I am close to both (well was VERY close before they moved away). Then maybe gender.... but take that back to, because I am very close to both my sister and brother - my brother slept on my bedroom floor until the night before I got married and waited up for me every night!
I think a lot of it has to do with parenting... we were raised to be best friends. We all had our own rooms in our teen years and had our own space - but we always were very close and not allowed to talk down to or be rude or hateful to each other. I think a lot of it is how you are raised.
In my opinion, age gap is not so much of a factor. The parents should encourage the closeness among siblings. I had so many classmates and friends that rarely know their siblings even though they live in the same house. I always praised my sons when they play, joke or go out together and keep an eye that they will never grew apart. Parents should constantly let them know the importance of a close family relation, celebrate each others victory, lend a shoulder when the other is sad, lend an ear when the other is in trouble. All for one and one for all, my family motto. happy parenting and blogging to you
I definitely agree with what these ladies are saying. I think parents encouraging closeness among siblings plays a huge factor! I do my best to remind my children that God gave them their siblings as a gift, its a person He wanted in their life! I am not at all close with my siblings, though I wish that were different. We all seem to live very seperate and very different lives and prefer it that way for some reason. I remember when we would fight my parents always would say it was because we were sick of each other and needed time away from each other. My mom, not purposely, would play us against eachother in order to find out when we were up to something and I think we learned to resent eachother a lot. Anyway, that's just my experience.
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