I have no idea why this phrase does not offend or annoy me in the least:
You sure have your hands full!
Or in the case of the most recent time I heard it, I was at my OBGYN's office for my 34 week checkup, and a medical student saw me first. He was taking some basic information, I was trying to not act as annoyed as I felt. I know they have to learn, but after going through three other pregnancies with students (I even had an EMT student witness Caleb's birth) I think I'm just done being their example. Let first-time moms be their guinea pigs, ya know? :) Ahem. Anyway, he said something about my blood pressure, and he said maybe it was because I brought Gabriel with me to the visit.
I said, "Yeah, or that this is my forth baby coming."
He replied, "Boy, you're sure going to have your hands full!"
I smiled and continued, "Yes, I sure will."
And I didn't feel upset at all. I didn't have some prideful, uppity response ready for him like, "My heart is fuller!" or something like that (I read that somewhere once when someone was telling moms how to respond to that phrase).
Why are moms offended? I mean, usually I hear the phrase from older/wiser moms, women who have been there and know what it's like. We literally do have our hands full at times, depending on the day depends on what exactly our hands are full with! Sometimes it's a kid on the hip, but sometimes it's our hands full of diapers, wipes, sippy cups, Legos, Barbies, whatever.
And that's ok with me.
And if someone means it in a mean way, I'm oblivious.
So go ahead and say it to Chrissy. I totally won't get the jab. You'll have to jab at some other mom with her hands full. :)
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