Friday, February 26, 2010

Our Bedroom

A couple Saturdays ago, I attended a Women's Retreat at the First Christian Church in Rolla. It was a great group of ladies of all ages, and I just loved the speaker and the information she gave us in regard to being the best wife we could be.

One of the sections that stood out to me had to do with making our bedroom for adults only. Here is some of the info that she shared:

I recommend that you make your bedroom a place of escape & rest for your husband and you. You can decorate it in a way that says, “This is our special Hide-A-Way or Resort.” Have photos of your dating years and wedding on display. Framed art is also beautiful. I want to discourage you from having photos of your kids or parents in your bedroom. **As a side note, the women in the room busted out laughing when she explained about the photos and mentioned trying to be intimate with your spouse and then seeing a picture of your in-laws in the room! :o)

Another idea concerning your bedroom is not to put anything in the room that is work/stress related. That means NO kid’s toys, baby supplies, laundry waiting to be folded (been there, done that), a desk, bills, computers, etc…. This room is where your husband and you will go to escape from the demands of life and enjoy one another. Discussions concerning finances and in-laws you may want to exclude as well.

Lastly, I recommend that you do not allow children to sleep with you. Occasionally, a child may have a bad dream and need to sneak under the covers for a few minutes. After he/she calms down, goes potty, and gets a drink, you should escort him/her back to his/her own bed. Your bed is meant for the two of you to be intimate in both conversation and sex. A child present really kills those activities.

As your children get older, you can teach them that your room is your private space. It’s not a place for them to barge into and play. They should always knock and respect Dad and Mom’s personal space.

I could not agree more with what she said. Our room has always been rather neutral, not having pictures of the kids or parents. We have two pictures of us on one of our dressers - one is from our wedding day, one is a picture of just the two of us the summer before I became pregnant with Caleb.

I've worked hard to keep the room cleaned up and tried to not let it become the "dump all" place that it once was. It seemed as though I used to make our room my last priority. Now I try to keep it right up there on my list of rooms to keep tidy! Sometimes I do fold laundry on our bed, but I always put it away as soon as I can.

As for kids sleeping in the same room, I agree that they should not. Josh is way more strict on this than I am, but for the most part, we agree that they belong in their room. This is not only for our sake, though. I believe it creates good sleeping habits for the child as well. But when it comes to husband and wife...I can't think of anything that would ruin the mood (or take away the essence of an escape to our "own" place) like a child in the same room!

So there's a bit of insight that I received from a great speaker. I was glad that I was already attempting to follow what she was talking about. Currently the one thing we really should get out of our room is our computer hutch. I'm just not sure where to put it...but perhaps a living room makeover would fix that? :o)


A Mom After God's Own Heart said...

Great blog!

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Mrs. Haid said...

I totally agree! Our bedroom furniture is probably the best in our house! Our mattress is SO lovely that I hate visiting relatives and staying over night! We also keep candles in our room and our closet door shut to make it feel more like a resort. Recently we bought this awesome lounge-y chair and nice curtains. I wanted this room to be a place to relax! I felt like once we moved the baby's moses basket into his bedroom, I was finally able to relax again.

Faithful Mali said...

Oh, our bedroom needs a lot of help and I will leave it at that (except there are no pics of our parents- thank goodness). Thanks for sharing with us.

Nel Lenae said...

We are working on this... hopefully this summer it will change dramatically!

Confessions From A Working Mom said...

GREAT POINTS! My parents never let me sleep with them (my mom used to make me sleep on the floor of their room; a surefire way to get me back in my bed ASAP!), and I plan to continue that trend with G.

BTW, I love your comforter. Where's it from?

Confessions From A Working Mom

Sarah said...

I really appreciate your topic today, so true.

We just moved and it seems like our bedroom is last on the list of rooms to get put back together, and it stresses me out every time I walk in there. You've inspired me to make that room a priority this weekend. Thanks!

By the way, I so enjoy your blog. I look forward to reading it every day at work, and often "save" reading it for when I need a mid morning break from work :)

Felissa Hadas said...

Beautiful place of retreat for you and your husband.

Stopping by with Friday Follow. Hope you had a fantastic week.


Jamie said...

Thanks for stopping by my blog and following it!

I really love and appreciate this post. I will have to work on implementing these things. Currently our bedroom is the one room that becomes the catchall. I've tried to correct this, but I haven't gotten it there yet. I had already taken down a frame to change out the photos in it. This time I will look for old photos of us to place in it. Thanks for these tips that you learned from your retreat.

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fraizerbaz said...

Yes, a desk with bills would not be welcome in MY bedroom!

I'm stopping by from Friday Follow... Have a great weekend!

Angela said...

These are great pointers. Thanks for sharing. New Friday Follower.


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Jeanette said...

I agree completely and have been working towards that same goal.. great blog!

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christy rose said...

It sounds like a great retreat with a lot of wisdom coming forth. I love retreats!!!

tsue said...

Great points! We are getting ready to remodel our bedroom ( last room to get attention in our new house ) but I'm determined to make it a haven for us!

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Deanna said...

This is a great post. So many times, people get wound up in every day life and being parents, they forget who they were before family and kids. I am with Brown Bag party and I tell ladies these tips all the time.

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