Our Bedroom

A couple Saturdays ago, I attended a Women's Retreat at the First Christian Church in Rolla. It was a great group of ladies of all ages, and I just loved the speaker and the information she gave us in regard to being the best wife we could be.

One of the sections that stood out to me had to do with making our bedroom for adults only. Here is some of the info that she shared:

I recommend that you make your bedroom a place of escape & rest for your husband and you. You can decorate it in a way that says, “This is our special Hide-A-Way or Resort.” Have photos of your dating years and wedding on display. Framed art is also beautiful. I want to discourage you from having photos of your kids or parents in your bedroom. **As a side note, the women in the room busted out laughing when she explained about the photos and mentioned trying to be intimate with your spouse and then seeing a picture of your in-laws in the room! :o)

Another idea concerning your bedroom is not to put anything in the room that is work/stress related. That means NO kid’s toys, baby supplies, laundry waiting to be folded (been there, done that), a desk, bills, computers, etc…. This room is where your husband and you will go to escape from the demands of life and enjoy one another. Discussions concerning finances and in-laws you may want to exclude as well.

Lastly, I recommend that you do not allow children to sleep with you. Occasionally, a child may have a bad dream and need to sneak under the covers for a few minutes. After he/she calms down, goes potty, and gets a drink, you should escort him/her back to his/her own bed. Your bed is meant for the two of you to be intimate in both conversation and sex. A child present really kills those activities.

As your children get older, you can teach them that your room is your private space. It’s not a place for them to barge into and play. They should always knock and respect Dad and Mom’s personal space.

I could not agree more with what she said. Our room has always been rather neutral, not having pictures of the kids or parents. We have two pictures of us on one of our dressers - one is from our wedding day, one is a picture of just the two of us the summer before I became pregnant with Caleb.












I've worked hard to keep the room cleaned up and tried to not let it become the "dump all" place that it once was. It seemed as though I used to make our room my last priority. Now I try to keep it right up there on my list of rooms to keep tidy! Sometimes I do fold laundry on our bed, but I always put it away as soon as I can.

As for kids sleeping in the same room, I agree that they should not. Josh is way more strict on this than I am, but for the most part, we agree that they belong in their room. This is not only for our sake, though. I believe it creates good sleeping habits for the child as well. But when it comes to husband and wife...I can't think of anything that would ruin the mood (or take away the essence of an escape to our "own" place) like a child in the same room!












So there's a bit of insight that I received from a great speaker. I was glad that I was already attempting to follow what she was talking about. Currently the one thing we really should get out of our room is our computer hutch. I'm just not sure where to put it...but perhaps a living room makeover would fix that? :o)