Sunday, August 29, 2010

Not sure what to title this one...

I really think I could say, "My roof caved in this morning," and you would respond, "Let me tell you about my trip to the grocery store." Never really show any interest in my thoughts, feelings, life happenings. It's almost like you don't even hear what I say.

Does everyone have people like this in their lives? Do they know they are doing it?


10 comments:

thechattymommy said...

I am trying to think of something witty to say and nothing is coming to mind- but I hear you on this one.
Then they wonder why you don't encourage the friendship!
duh!

Maegan said...

I DO! These people are called "melancholies" and they can literally turn the conversation back to them no matter what you say. US: "I have cancer." THEM: "really, my grandpa had cancer too...and speaking of cancer, I had a Horrible day at work!"
They just can't help it! Everything they think of, revolves and rotates around how it affects them! I know this because I'm married to one! Unfortunately, I don't know a single melanchonly who actually thinks they are like that!

Nel said...

I definetely know some people like this... but think that I can be that way sometimes too... oops!

Cheryl Sybert said...

I have someone in my life right now that is exactly like this. I have been avoiding her like the plague. God has truly been convicting me of this and putting her on my heart constantly. I have been praying about the situation, and God has shown me that she is so sad and lonely in her life that she feels the need to try to make it look like everything is wonderful, which is why she always jumps into my conversations and turns them around to be about her. I have really had to take some deep breaths and pray for God to show me the right way to react. The bad part is that this person is a part of my family.
I think the best thing that we can do is show them God's love because they really truly need it as much if not more than most, and then they can see who the universe really revolves around, if you know what I mean! ;)

Jaimee M said...

Wow Cheryl! Look at you go girl! Now back to me, jk jk.

Chrissy, I do know peeps like this, or my favorite is when they are only interested in your life when something negative is going on or they call you to gossip. I just want to scream at them - SERIOUSLY? THIS IS WHAT YOU CALLED ME FOR? Anyway, I don't really have advice, just sympathy. But Cheryl had some good thoughts.

Kelly @ Blessed Mommy, Blessed Wife said...

Yes! I have a girlfriend that you described to a "t"! I think she knows she is like this but doesn't seem interested in changing her ways. It's called the center of attention :) I admit that I'm not always in a rush to call her except when I'd like to hear someone tell me all about themself! I am hoping that she will become a little less self-centered when she brings a child into the world. Kids change everything...

Danielle Leigh said...

Unfortunately yes, I do know people like this. And Maegan above, it's my hubby too! lol It is extremely frustrating! Pray for them and pray for your patience and love to shine forth! It actually is saying more about you if you ignore that factor. After all, we are not to think of ourselves either. When I am constantly listening to my hubby instead of him listening to me, I remind myself that 1. I am here to serve others, not myself, and help him. If I have to listen non-stop and not get to talk, well, I suppose that is why the Good Lord put me into his life. And 2. I know that when I speak to God, He hears me. That is all that should really matter. I'm not saying anyone is wrong for being frustrated, but that is how I look and deal with it.

Terri said...

Unfortunately, yes. I guess I may be guilty of that sometimes too, but I try to be mindful of it and correct myself. :)

I found your blog through the Hip Homeschool Hop. Have a great day!

Lizliterarius said...

Thanks for posting this! I have one of those friends and I've been feeling so bad about constantly being annoyed by him. I called him once last year looking for some support (we had mold in the kitchen walls that insurance wouldn't cover so I ripped out and replaced the walls myself, got halfway into the new kitchen install and ended up diagnosed with MS, put on disability and unable to move my right side) and he replied, 'Work's been really tough lately and my mom is always complaining about me.'

I mean really? Seriously? Did you listen to what I said at all?

Thanks for making me feel less alone in the struggle to not tell him to jump off the deep end and not call.

Mrs. Haid said...

This is called the Look At Me (non) friend.

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