Back in January I wrote a post about being a compulsive opinion giver. I am still in recovery so-to-speak, so I do still tend to spout off my opinion when it might not be welcome. I resisted once this week but caved and sent an opinionated email once this week, too. So one out of two is making progress, right? Actually, I resist A LOT when it comes to blog comments...man, I want to say stuff all the time and don't. I'm doing better!
When it comes to my real life friends, I am very prone to do this even more, especially when I start feeling that the friendship has reached that phase. Are all friendships this way, or do most friends just stay in a sort of happy, let's not talk about anything in depth phase? Sure, there are friends who talk about sex or in-laws or irritating spouse habits. But what if your friend is doing something that might not be in his or her best interest? Maybe it's a crazy financial decision. Maybe it's a crazy relationship decision. Maybe it's a crazy parental decision.
Here's the thing. I know it's possible that I could be out of line if I have a concern. I genuinely don't mean to ever seem like a jerk. Remember the post about cussing around your kids? It's possible that some might think I was being harsh.
Once I told a friend that I thought her husband was being an idiot (I won't go into detail, but I felt justified in feeling that way and saying it...at the time). That didn't go over so well. But you know what meant the world to me? SHE TOLD ME. She was upset that I felt that way about the situation. We talked for a long time. I cried. She cried. But I learned a lot about her character that day. She was willing to call me out on it. She did not keep it to herself and run to another friend and talk about me. She talked TO ME.
So if I feel like giving you my opinion, just know that you were the one that just happened to be the one for the day. I'm still recovering. If you don't feel it's valid, it's best to just tell me.
I'll respect you for that.
For now, I'll suppress a handful of opinions that are bubbling inside of me. You're welcome.
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